My business up-line sent me this today. I thought it might be of benefit to some, as well as fitting in w/ our course.
How FAST is YOUR RECOVERY TIME?
from Shirzad the author of POSITIVE INTELLIGENCE.
What do you think is the #1 difference between a world champion and the runners up?
Hint: It’s not skill. It’s not training or fitness. It’s not even motivation and how badly they want to win.
The Answer: Recovery time. The speed in which they rebound from setbacks and mistakes.
Picture a tennis player in the game of her life. She has just hit a weak backhand and she knows it.
In the immediate moments that follow, we see her re-center physically into the “ready” position, facing the net squarely, ready for whatever type of ball comes back.
But an even more important factor is whether she re-centers mentally and gets into the ready mind position in time…
…because here’s the thing. If half her mind is still upset over her last mistake, by the time the next ball comes she will smash the ball into the net.
If you don’t recover fast enough, your small mistakes or setbacks can spiral into bigger ones.
Champions know this. They know how to recover fast—mentally.
How fast is your recovery time?
When you experience a setback – a rejection from a prospective client, getting admonished by your boss, losing your cool when talking to your teenager – how long does it take you to re-center yourself, mentally and emotionally?
The answer depends on the strength of your Saboteurs. Every Saboteur pounces into action in response to your inevitable mistakes, failures and setbacks in the game of life.
Depending on which Saboteur you’ve got …
…the Judge prolongs your recovery by obsessing over your shortcomings.
…the anxiety-fueling Saboteurs such as Hyper-Vigilant, Controller, Stickler, and Hyper-Achiever blow the negative consequences of the setback out of proportion.
…the Victim drowns you in self pity and might even cause you to give up.
…the Avoider shields you in denial, resulting in inaction.
…and so on.
In short, your Saboteurs waste a ton of your mental and emotional energy which in turn prolongs your recovery.
What would your Sage, your wise true self, do instead?
Here are the 2 Sage options:
Option 1. Actively turn the setback into a gift.
Your Sage actively embraces setbacks as opportunities for new growth, learning, and action.
A small failure leads to learning that accelerates the next huge success. A blowout conflict becomes the first step to creating greater trust and mutual understanding. Getting fired from a job becomes the chance to finally pursue your dream.
Option 2. Actively accept the setback.
Your Sage knows that if you are not choosing to actively harness the gift of a setback, the only other wise choice is to actively accept it and let it be. Make full peace with it.
So, to use a hiking metaphor, if a big boulder rolls in and blocks your path, there are really only two wise categories of choices:
…either actively create a gift by learning how to climb or move the big boulder, exploring an exciting new path forward, etc. (option 1).
…or actively accept the situation and feel peace about cutting your hike short. Stop, sit on the side of the boulder, hear the birds, enjoy the breeze. (option 2).
If you bang against the boulder repeatedly in frustration, or curse your luck, or anxiously anticipate rolling boulders everywhere, your Saboteurs have won.
When facing setbacks, choose a Sage option. You’ll recover much faster, with your mind ready for what’s next.
Let me know how it goes.
One could easily substitute subby for sage, right ?
Good April to all –